TORN
my mother-in-law and i were just talking about the elections over dinner earlier and we touched on the issue of the summary killings (the tv was tuned to tv patrol world, showing pinoys in japan holding a protest against the killings during GMA's visit to tokyo)...
my in-laws are from eastern visayas where many activists were killed or gone missing.
my mother-in-law told me that people in their province --in the capital -- were in favor of the killings because it made their province "more peaceful". my father-in-law was even sending me forwarded text messages before the elections, telling me to vote for jovito palparan's party list. never in a hundred years woud i vote for that man.
other half and his family are right of center. my family and i are left of center. how we can meet halfway is something else. i don't know how other half and i would raise children when we have different set of beliefs and politics -- and to think that i am passionate about what i believe in.
i grieve for the murdered journalists and for the "death of press freedom" (starting with the libel cases against journalists by the first gentleman that thankfully he withdrew). other half said they deserved it since some of the journalists were corrupt anyway.
the priest that officiated our wedding told us in his sermon that marriage is a union of uniqueness and it does not necessarily mean that we have to become a carbon copy of each other -- that marriage is a celebration of our individuality under one union.
it's easier said than done.
i wasn't worried about our differences before we got married because it seems like the gap didn't bother us that much. i didn't have to agree with him at that time because we weren't married -- yet.
but hearing my mother-in-law talk that way did i realize that other half came from a different background and was raised very differently from me. graduating from the same university is not an assurance that our beliefs and politics would complement. yun pa man din ang criteria ko dati, sabi ko dati taga-UP lang ang ieentertain kong maging bf/asawa kasi para mas madali kaming magkaintindihan. eeenggk! mali ang akala ko.
how can i still keep my "individuality" and beliefs without sacrificing my marriage? i haven't met couples pa naman na magkaibang-magkaiba ang paniniwala nila.
